We all want our marriage to be successful and happy. We want to be secure in the relationship, to feel loved and give love freely. The great thing about marriage is that you have new opportunities every day to make your marriage deeper, strong and filled with more love.
This can be difficult if your marriage has struggled in the past or if you feel like you don't have time. But your marriage is worth all time, stress and struggle to make it work.
Here are seven of the best resolutions for making your marriage better
1. Put your phones down
This is one of the most important things you can do to make your marriage better. Put your phones down and turn off the TV. Talk to your spouse face to face. Share your hopes and dreams. Talk about your fears, your stressors and your children. It can be a 10-minute conversation to hours of pillow talk.
2. Plan time together
Life gets busy and sometimes you don't even realize how little time you are spending with your spouse. Make an effort to plan time into your schedule that is specifically for your spouse. It could be planning a lunch date or simply just planning to wash dishes together.
3. Find an example
Find an older couple you admire and talk to them. Go to dinner with them and talk to them about their successes and what works for them.
Or simply work on being friends and observe how they treat each other — what they say about each other and how they serve each other. Try to learn from them and take care of your spouse better.
4. Spend time with your kids
Work on building your whole family. You will be surprised at how family time will not only strengthen the relationship with your children but also with your spouse. Sometimes being a good spouse means being a good parent.
Do an activity that allows you to talk freely (so movies and go-karting are out). This way you can hear what everyone's thinking and feeling, and therefore, learn more about each other and deepen the relationship.
5. Build something together
Whether it's a craft in the house or a project in the yard, build something that will make both of you smile. Working together encourages you to unite to reach a common goal. Support each other and offer help as you accomplish your project together.
6. Be kind
We all think that we are kind, but there is something about trying a little harder to be a little kinder. You will notice a difference and so will your spouse. They may not reciprocate the same kindness right away but they will soon. Your children will notice the difference and want to be not only kinder in the house but also at school.
Whether you feel like your marriage is solid or could use some work, it's never a bad idea to seek help with your marriage. It can be as simple as checking out a marriage help book from a library or sitting down and making goals together. You can also discuss going to therapy together and working out some of the deeper things that have been bothering both of you.
There are so many options to get help — don't be afraid to talk to your spouse and find what will work best for you.
Your marriage is worth it! Don't give up on your spouse, your kids or yourself. Things will turn out in the end and you will be happier than you have ever been if you set goals today.
Christa is a part time photographer, part time writer and full time lover of life. She loves eating chocolate chip cookies and singing (but not at the same time). She has her degree in political science.